What happens when there’s no dating drama?

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imageAlix B. Golden started her life as a Carolina Girl, but matured into a Georgia Peach. This freelancer dishes on sex, relationships and dating often revealing more than she should about her own life. Read more from her at A Brown Girl.

I met this girl once. We had so much fun together, but both of our exes still had presence in the background. I voiced my concerns and I remember her saying to me that if we ever made it to falling in love, then it wouldn’t be an issue.

She told me that I should just enjoy things how they were now and not think about how things were going to be later. We dated for 3 months, without even considering turning it into something more serious. I remember it being such a happy time in my life. When we stopped connecting, there was no drama, we had a convo, some goodbye sex and we’re still friends.

I’ve never just dated anyone that long. It wasn’t even an exclusive dating situation either. We were both free to see other people. When we made plans, if one of us was busy, there wasn’t some question about what the other person was doing. We didn’t spend a lot of time on the phone talking. We did most of our talking in person. We simply had fun.

I know there are people out there that believe this kind of dating is pointless, but I wonder if sometimes we need to have something simple that doesn’t require any thought. Having her in my life didn’t give me a headache or heartache. I had no fear about her or what she was doing or what we were doing.

Obviously, I haven’t done much of this kind of dating in my life. Most people don’t make it passed 3 or 4 dates with me because they’ve said or done something to irritate me. But that situation was just what I needed at that moment in time.

My question: Does dating always have to lead towards a relationship?

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