Texas turns your union into ‘skim-milk marriage’

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What happens when a gay Texas couple gets legally married elsewhere? They get smacked with the reality of their “skim-milk marriage” and their murky legal status.

Jef Rouner and the Houston Press take a deep dive into The Legal Limbo of Being Gay and Married in Texas and the complexities that gay-married couples face with name changes, health insurance, taxes, immigration, adoption, medical care and much more.

Hunt has a term for these sorts of loose arrangements that don't have the full force of marriage: skim-milk marriages.

“We've got recognition, but it's piecemeal,” Hunt says. “Being recognized as married before you have children is hard, but when you have children and they're not automatically recognized, it's even harder.”

Thanks to a 2005 constitutional amendment, Texas bans gay marriage. In February, U.S. District Court Judge Orlando Garcia ruled in De Leon v. Perry that the ban is unconstitutional, but stayed his ruling to make way for an appeal. Five other cases are pending in the state.

That's left gay couples from Texas who get hitched in any of the 19 states offering legal same-sex marriages facing a big mess after the honeymoon.

Once the honeymoons were over, the Texas LGBT couples returned to the state and began to more fully understand exactly what it meant to live within the tangled web of laws and guidelines woven by a federal government that said yes and a state government that said no.

What's the hold up? Fear, lesbian attorney Debra Hunt tells the Press.

“We're seeing such a rapid movement now, with cases finding 100 percent for same-sex couples,” Hunt says. “In Texas, the powers that be aren't happy about it. Part of it is a fear of change. You see that in a lot of areas. You see it in gun control and immigration. It's not just same-sex marriage. There just is a segment of society that doesn't think it needs to change.”


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