So you want to be an LGBTQ ally? 10 things to know, do and say

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From sexuality vs. gender to role playing, from embracing non-binary and preferred pronouns, to rejecting tired assumptions and straight-splaining, these are the ways allies can really help.

1. Support Out Loud

In a world of societal pressure, institutionalized discrimination, and bullying, let us know explicitly that you’re on our side.

2. Sexuality vs. Gender

They’re two completely separate things, and one can never predict the other.

 

3. Role Play

In gay male couples, no one is “the woman.” In lesbian couples, “the man” isn’t there. That’s the whole point.

 

4. Non-Binary People Exist

Some people identify with neither gender. Some identify as both. Accept it, and resist the urge to force them into categories.

 

5. What’s In a Name?

Names, pronouns, and gender markers are important. Using the wrong one feels like an insult.

 

6. Got Issues?

Our depression and anxiety isn’t because we have issues with our identity, but because others do.

 

7. We Don’t Know Your Queer Friend

And we don’t necessarily want to date them, either.

 

8. Coming Out is Forever

It’s not a one-time thing. Basically every new person we meet is an opportunity, it’s exhausting, and it’s our decision if and when we do it.

 

9. No Sex For You!

Lesbians don’t want a male third, and gay men aren’t trying to get with every straight man.

 

10. Stop Straight-Splaining

When you’re in queer spaces like our bars and parties, listen more than you talk. We don’t care what you think about it.

11. BONUS

Fight for racial justice. Your LGBTQ brethren are intersectional in our identities like that. Here’s how.

Fight for racial justice. Your LGBTQ brethren are intersectional in our identities like that. Here’s how.

A version of this feature appeared in QATLus magazine. Read the latest issue online here:

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