This porn star doesn’t want girls to ruin gay bars

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It’s an issue that just keeps coming up, only for gay pornster Chris Harder it’s while he’s working. He has a problem with some straight girls in gay bars and offers up some advice for a more peaceful coexistence.

You may be more used to Harder (photo) giving it up in gay porn or shaking his money maker at gay bars, but as our fluffed interview earlier this year revealed, he’s as insightful and articulate as he is smoking hot while dancing on a box. Especially when it comes to people that affect his income. So he mused to Queerty:

The truth is, I didn’t want anything from this girl, and as the evening grew on I found myself wanting even more “less” from this blonde-haired, blue-eyed she devil. I didn’t want her attitude; I didn’t want her light-up pom-poms she kept gesturing for me to grab (this was the Lower East Side, not the White Party circa 2001); and I definitely didn’t want her constant attempts to stand on the table next to my go-go box and keep dancing “at” me.

Finally, on her third attempt to shove the plastic handle of that goddamn pom-pom up my ass, I found myself thinking that dangerous, precarious thought: “I fucking hate straight girls in gay bars!”

But Harder is quick to point out that it’s not “straight girls,” or any women for that matter, that he actually hates. It’s that one woman doing everything she can to ruin it for the rest of them. And everyone else in sight.

What I can’t stand though is “that one straight girl” (and there’s always one) in a gay or queer space who not only demands attention but also conveys that you and I and everyone else within a 20 foot-radius have all been cast for her personal Sex-in-the-City-Will-&-Grace-Gay-Best-Friend bullshit fantasy. 

Amen. But drunk idiots aren’t just straight or female in the bars, and you know who you are. Harder is over your “tipless slaps on the ass and ‘dance for me monkey’” attitude. Some gay men don’t hold themselves to the same standards of behavior, and the conversation rarely winds its way to what Harder calls a real opportunity.

If anything, I think the “straight girl problem” actually indirectly points to a much larger issue of how we (and I include myself in this) have been categorizing and sectioning off not just parties or bars, but sexual and lifestyle identities in general. …

When I think, “God, another straight girl in a gay bar,” am I really reacting to her gender or inferred sexuality, or am I associating it with a larger, more mainstream “hetero-normative” identity that actually repulses me?

Barring all ladies isn’t going to create some utopian gay clubhouse. Instead of stressing the surface differences between “me and she,” I think we need to gently probe deeper into what it is we’re actually trying to keep out of gay and queer spaces, and even more importantly, why. 

Out of the mouths of babes. Hot NSFW babes, but still. While you work on you, maybe in the meantime send that annoying woman the Straight Girl’s Guide to Gay Sex. Or maybe just get the worst offenders to act right and stop interrupting gay strippers with bare-boobs blowback.

[Queerty]

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