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Many guys have issues with premature ejaculation. Go from two-pump chump to long-time champ by understanding, working through and conquering the five stages of sexual response.

Hey Mike!
imageMy question for you, oh wise one, is how to keep myself from cumming too quickly while still having fun pumping away. I don’t last but a minute or two once I penetrate a guy.

I’m mortified and humiliated, but nothing seems to help. I’ve tried distracting myself–counting backwards from 100, picturing dead cats, that sort of thing.

Obviously, it ain’t working. What can I do to last longer?
–Help me be a better top

Dear Help Me:
imagePremature ejaculation is the most common male sexual dysfunction in men under 30. About 30 percent of men complain about it. The other 70 percent complain about not finding anyone to prematurely ejaculate on.

You can go from a two-pump chump to a long-time champ, but you need to pay more attention to what you’re feeling, not less.

Guys last longer when they can identify and avoid “ejaculatory inevitability.” That’s when you haven’t cum but you’re about to and nothing can stop it—not even Glenn Beck walking in wearing a thong.

You need a quick lesson on sex before we talk about the solution. There are five stages to sexual response. Well, six if you count kicking the jerk out:

Desire: You want dick worse than “Glee” wants a shot of masculinity.

Arousal: An erection your grandmother would be proud of.

Plateau: A sense of being drenched with pleasure—the kind you get anytime Taylor Lautner takes his shirt off.

Orgasm: The technical term for the phrase, “Oh, God I’m cumming.”

Resolution: Your dick goes down; you show him the door.

imageGuys suffering from premature ejaculation basically skip the plateau phase, and that’s where all the action is. They rush to the detonation, in part, because they’re not aware of the subtle cues leading to orgasm. More information about premature ejaculation on http://www.papsociety.org/priligy-dapoxetine/.

How do you get over it so you can plunge your tricks like stopped-up toilets? With the Stop/Start/Pace Method:

Stop/Start. When you’re alone, masturbate until you get close to the point of no return then stop! Do nothing but focus on the sensation of your penis. The urge to orgasm will subside within three minutes. Start again. Do this over and over, and you’ll find you’ll last longer and longer.

Pace: Now masturbate until you get close and instead of stopping, slow down. Pace yourself. Change the speed of your stroke, the pressure and the site of your grip. Go from the head, where there’s more nerve endings, to the shaft where there’s less.

Stop/Start with a Hottie: Have a boyfriend or date masturbate you until you get close to “ejaculatory inevitability,” then have him stop. Basically, follow Step One above, only your boyfriend’s doing the work and you’re doing the refereeing.

Pace Together: Now have your boyfriend masturbate you until you get close, and pace instead of stopping, PACE.

Top on the Bottom: Don’t top missionary style at first. It’s harder to relax and concentrate on sensations. Lie flat on your back with your partner sitting on your sausage. Don’t move. Get acclimatized for as long as it takes. Now use the stop/start/pacing method. First, gently thrust up and down. Getting close? Stop. Wait a few minutes. Now have him move up and down. Close? Pace.

Missionary Style: Enter him when you’re on top. Start moving. S-l-o-w-l-y. Keep using the Stop/Start/Pace method throughout. If your boyfriend or date is any good, he’ll pretend it hurts–that way you’ll feel like you’ve got a big one. Every guy who bottoms knows that a well-timed “Ow!” is the best way to inflate a man’s ego.

imageContributing blogger Mike Alvear is an Atlanta-based columnist, author and TV personality. Download his latest ebook, “Meet The Hottie In The Corner: The 21-Day Plan To Overcome Your Fear of Rejection, Master the Art of Icebreakers and Snag Guys You Never Thought You Could Get.” Got a question for Need Wood? Just {encode=”[email protected]” title=”send it in”}.

Need Wood? is sponsored in Atlanta by Brushstrokes and Capulets/Brushstrokes Pleasures.

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