Q:
How long is long enough after a breakup before I get into another relationship? When do I know I’m ready to take the plunge again?
My wife dumped me while I was recovering from a major medical issue. We divorced and sold our house.
So, I met this cute woman, and now I want to take her home to meet mama. I can totally see us getting married. Is it too soon?
Dear Hurry Up:
That’s a lot. First, take a breath. Now, take another. Deeper. There ya go.
Now, just by asking if it’s too soon, you show that something inside may say that, for you, right now definitely feels like Fast & Furious 9.
Love isn’t on a timeline. What’s your hurry?
You’ve heard of rebound relationships, and we know serial monogamy is a longstanding queer epidemic. When you’re caught up in it personally, it may be hard to tell the difference between the real deal and fake news.
Does it feel like a rush job? Do you need to get married again, or want to be with this woman forever? Would it hurt to continue dating to find out? Therein lies your answer.
Q:
I thought I was satisfied, but now I’m pretty sure that everybody is having more sex than me. Other gay guys are getting all kinds of laid, and here I sit with my occasional booty call and random hookup.
Dear Always Greener:
The only thing worrying gets you is frustrated. Forget assumptions about, and braggadocio from, other people.
Go back to your initial statement: You were satisfied. Was worrying somehow more appealing than that?
Q:
Here’s a queer conundrum for you. I want a guy named Paul, but Paul has the hots for a girl named Sadie and her bisexual partner Noah. And, yep, Noah and Sadie are all about me. Help!
Dear Cluster:
That you’re all friends is a great start. Buy a bottle of wine, call a meeting, and see what happens. The knots can’t get more twisted by applying some honest communication to the situation.
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Illustration by Brad Gibson.
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