10 lessons we wish we could teach our younger selves

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Even though we didn't think we needed it at the time, our younger selves could have used some hard earned advice from what we've learned since then. Here are the 10 most common themes from real people.

Here are the 10 most common themes from real readers.








Be Kind 

To yourself and others



Love, Trust & Believe in Yourself

Care less what other people think, and know your own timeline. You are stronger than you think.



Fear Not

Be bold and brave, and don’t let fear keep you from your dreams.



As Is

You are already as you were created to be, and it’s fabulous.



Have Discipline

Don’t wait until you feel like it. Do what you need to do when you need to do it. It’s freeing.



Surround Yourself

With fierce, positive, driven people.



Money Matters

It’s not the most important thing, but becoming financially literate makes some things easier.



Forget Labels

If one fits, wear it. If none do, create your own. The right people will respect it.


No Shit

Don’t take it from anyone.




Don’t assume other people know what you’re thinking, or vice versa.

Our favorite “regrets” responses: “Don’t eat sushi in the Bahamas.” “People are great, but you don’t have to marry them.” “Trust No Man!” “Keep the gold lame´ bomber jacket.” and “Don’t stick that in there!”

This feature originally appeared in Q magazine. Read the full issue below, and pick up a new edition each Wednesday.



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