His latest? A just-released memoir – “Black Enough Man Enough” – that takes a deep dive into his life across 28 chapters and more than 350 pages. It doesn’t pull any punches in dealing with racism, homophobia, masculinity, marriage and fatherhood as he reflects on his own life and upbringing.
“This has been another thing that was not planned. I never intended on writing a book either,” Smalls said during an interview for a new episode of Podcast Q [Listen below]. “Once you start that story, you start remembering all of these things and all of these wounds start getting healed. It’s been a great four to five years of how long it took me to write it and release it.’
“Now, I think it’s really the most impactful thing I have ever done,” he added.
Which is saying something for the restaurateur who launched Virgil’s Gullah Kitchen & Bar in 2019 with his husband Juan and created the popular Gentlemen’s Ball and its Gentlemen’s Foundation – also with Juan – to celebrate and support the accomplishments of Black LGBTQ people.
“There were no plans for us to do this, but now it was like, you know, our divine order moved us here,” Smalls said.
Smalls discussed the book and the reaction from family, running a restaurant during a pandemic, whether the Gentlemen’s Ball is coming back, the ongoing racial justice movement and how tough it is to be his personal assistant during a wide-ranging interview for a new episode of Podcast Q.
- (0:55) How the coronavirus pandemic is impacting the restaurant
- (1:35) The impact of the pandemic on Gee and his family
- (2:35) Gee on getting into the bar and lounge business – that turned into a restaurant
- (4:45) Where do those recipes come from?
- (7:45) Pivoting the business during the pandemic
- (10:55) What inspired Gee to write “Black Enough Man Enough”
- (14:55) The importance of family, their impact on Gee’s projects and their reaction to his memoir
- (19:45) What’s it like to be his personal assistant
- (21:49) How did the Gentlemen’s Ball get started and is it coming back
- (27:02) Using his voice in social activism and ongoing racial justice movement
- (29:15) Gee on going public on social media – and what stays private
- (30:56) What’s his next project – and is there a second Virgil’s in the works