Gay Georgia teen assaulted by mom, kicked out

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A gay Georgia teen says he was assaulted by his mother and kicked out of her home on Tuesday after she discovered his boyfriend's backpack in his car.

Doug Standard, 19, says he was wearing just boxer shorts and a robe late Tuesday when his mother confronted him in their home in Washington, which is about 40 miles southeast of Athens. She was angry after finding the backpack of Standard's boyfriend, 20-year-old Andrew Dorsey, in his car. So she threw it at him, slapped him and kicked him out of the house, Dorsey and Standard say.

“There was an argument and fight that ended up with me being kicked out of the house and having to walk four miles in a pair of boxers and bathrobe without even having shoes on,” Standard says.

A friend picked Standard up before Dorsey and others arrived. Since the altercation, Standard has been staying with Dorsey's family, Dorsey says.

“All he has on him is just his driver's license, a Social Security card and some of his work clothes. That's it. She won't let him come back,” Dorsey says.

On Wednesday, Dorsey and Standard launched a GoFundMe campaign to raise $3,500 to help Standard secure an apartment, clothes and basic living expenses so he can find a job, get back on his feet and return to school at Athens Technical College, where he's studying to become a nurse.

From the campaign:

Last night, Doug was woken up by his mother attacking him and cussing him out again. She found out that we are still dating after she ramsacked his car and found my bookbag in the trunk. After hitting him in the face with the bookbag, she went on to strike him with her hands across his face. Long story short, she kicked him out last night without any money, without his car, and clothed in nothing but a bathrobe and boxers. He didn't even have shoes on his feet. She told him to walk to Athens and not to return. If it wasn't for our friends Coty, Seth and Erik, he would of had to walk out in the cold and slept somewhere along the way.

As all of you who knows us, this is not the first time she has laid his hands on him and did this because he is a homosexual. He has worked since he was 16, became the people manager of his local franchise McDonalds, and has been going to school. Right now, Doug is able to stay a couple days with my parents and a few friends are trying to help out as well. Without his car, he can't go to school or work making it impossible to get started on his own.

Please, if you can help in any way, get in touch with me and show him the love we have for him. He has always put everyone else first in his life, let's try to do the same for him.

Thanks guys! Love you all!

– Andrew

Supporters donated $240 by Thursday afternoon.

“He has no way to get to work or go to school or anything like that. We started the GoFundMe campaign to get him on his feet and start a life with nothing,” Dorsey says. “The kick in the balls thing is his mother is a social worker and she did all of this.”

Standard and his mother have tangled before over his sexual orientation, prompting he and Dorsey to fake a breakup a few months ago so Standard could remain at  home.

“She has assaulted him in the past, choked him and beat the crap out of him. She really hates the fact that he is gay,” Dorsey says.

Standard says he didn't call police to report the assault. Instead, he wants to focus on rebuilding his life and moving forward. He's tried to talk with his mother, but she refuses to take his calls, he says.

“I was pretty much staying away from [reporting the incident to police] and dealing with that on my own,” Standard says.

Dorsey, through his church the Gathering Place, was pointed to Lost N Found Youth, the non-profit that cares for homeless LGBT teens in Atlanta. But there are few resources in Athens and even fewer in Jefferson, the small town about 20 miles away where Dorsey lives, he says.

Standard says he hopes the crowdsourcing campaign will also allow him to connect with other LGBT people who have experienced similar situations and can offer advice on what to do. He also says he's touched by donations to the GoFundMe campaign.

“I greatly appreciate it and it helps out a bunch to know that complete strangers will help out somebody that much,” Standard says.

The crowdsourcing campaign is at the least third effort in recent months to raise funds for a gay Georgia teen kicked out over his sexual orientation. Last month, supporters raised nearly $94,000 for Daniel Pierce after a video of his violent confrontation with his family went viral. In October, more than $27,000 was raised to help a gay college student from Marietta.

[photo: Doug Standard (left) and Andrew Dorsey via]


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