For Atlanta queers, finding fr-amily means more than holiday platitudes

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While much of queer Atlanta thinks warm thoughts of home the next few weeks, many are constantly reminded that home meant making a break from their beginnings. Whether cutting the cord from unaccepting family and toxic relatives, or the loss of loved ones through death, scores of us are on our own.

It’s easy to manage most of the year. When families of origin aren’t there or aren’t good for us, we have our friends. Together, we redefine family on our own terms.

Need a dinner companion? Done. Getting together a group for a road trip? We’re there. Need a shoulder to cry on? We got you.

Who needs Judgey McJudgerson back in Hooville when our Atlanta fr-amily is there?

They love you because of, and sometimes despite, your warts and flaws. They’re here for your joys and provide a secure shelter in times of desperation. They take your problems on as their own with thoughts toward solutions, not judgments. They’re your team.

Not everyone is that lucky. During the holidays, those of us embraced by our biological families or entrenched in an inner circle of friends may not realize that another queer in your life is hurting. What if a word or any simple kindness from you could save a life?A simple invitation or phone call could do the trick.

Queers are more likely to be lonely than most other demographic groups thist ime of year, but we must find ways to let the conversation go further than platitudes about family of choice.

While you enjoy this issue of Q and its queer advocates like in our photo essay on the Atlanta Sisters, LGBTQ comics and singers like the Queeriety troupe and Atlanta Gay Men's Chorus that both perform this weekend, musicians like recording artist Sam Sparro, newsmakers and our other popular weekly features, let’s resolve to say or do that thing that makes a difference to a fellow human.

And there’s a bonus: Karma anoints you with the old truth, “to give is to get.”

Reach Q publisher and editor Mike Fleming at [email protected], and flip throughthe latest digital edition of Q magazine below.


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