Q Advice

Stay or go? Romance, love and the seven-year itch

Should you trade marriage for the passion of your once-a-year dalliance? A sure thing for a dream fulfilled? Are you in a rut or afraid to move forward? In both cases, Life Judge knows.

My best friend’s boo is hitting on me. Help!

So your bestie has a new love, only that new love is hitting on you bigtime. Which one do you talk to first, and how? You have issues. Advice from our Life Judge can help.

What white lies, broken promises and Grindr ghosting say about you

Whether it's white lies to your boo, being perpetually late, or ditching a hookup, being true to your word is hard for some people. Level up by doing what you say and saying what you mean.

Help for LGBTQs ugly with envy and green with age

Got a significant other so hot you're a jealous mess? Aging and letting yourself feel like a troll? Step 1 is to stop worrying, because wringing your hands compounds your issues.

LGBTQ fears of kink leave feelings of ‘crazy and afraid’

The thrill of the chase often gets old as you do, and freezing your desires for the sake of others does too. Time to overcome preconceptions so you can move forward.

Generation Gaps: Coming out at 15, 35 or 55

Q: I’m 15, out and unhappy. My mom is cool with me being gay, but she’d rather talk about me finishing school and getting a...

Is cybersex still cheating, and are lies of omission still… lies?

Q: I didn’t plan it, but after breaking up with my ex a couple months ago, I started hooking up with his best friend....

My ex still threatens, harasses and gossips about me

Q: At first of course, my ex’s charm was awesome. Well, all that glitters in this queer world isn't gold... or hell even brass for...

Running scared from that other ‘L’ Word: Love

Q: My girlfriend is getting too close for comfort. She says my past heartbreaks are obstacles to me feeling the same way about her as...

Ghosting, shaming and being mean when you’re just not that into it

Q: I had sex with this boy, and it was fine. With booze and whatever other circumstances, I was attracted to him in the moment,...

‘Mutual abuse’ and 16 signs that your relationship is toxic

An alarming statistic out this month sets domestic violence between same-sex couples — both male and female — apart from straight couples. More than...

Um, I think my date just bailed without saying goodbye

"Some 90 minutes and several questions from friends about his absence later, I got a return text, “I’m fine.” Then another “I went home.”...

Red flag: When declining sex reveals his fragile gay ego

"He said I sent mixed signals, and that he doesn’t have time for games — all because I didn’t drop everything and drop my...

Sorry. Your #Instacrush doesn’t want to date you

"Sometimes I feel like he’s a messy flirt, starved for attention. Other times, he might not respond at all, then I wonder if maybe he’s the strong silent type that I actually need."

You are who you need: LGBTQ self-care in the age of COVID

"I’m losing it. I did OK for a few months in quarantine, but now I’m falling apart. Lockdown was fun at first, a challenge after that, and well, now I need help."

Both husbands put on pounds, but only one wants to change

I have struggled with my weight for years, and so has my husband. I'm trying to mitigate that with diet and exercise, but he isn't.

Help! I’m old, poz, in recovery and depressed

Throughout my 20s and much of my 30s, I deluded myself that Mr. Right was just around the corner. Nearly 40 now, I’m lonely and haven’t dated in a while. It's a party for one.

Help! Older man isn’t my daddy and shouldn’t treat me as his sub

If your older boyfriend wants to make you his prince and you're not the one, or a so-called ‘friend’ chokes on his own HIV...

Karens, rightful protests and losing the ‘buts’ in Black Lives Matter

Q: I keep running into resistance when I say police mistreatment of black people is upsetting, but that riots are wrong and have to stop....

Help! My stepdad married a man just six months after Mom died

Q: My mom died a year ago, and it’s been unimaginably hard on my siblings, half-siblings and myself. Then my stepfather made it even harder:...
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