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What if I’m not ‘Kinsey 6 Gold Plated Gay-Gay’ any more?

What if I’m not ‘Kinsey 6 Gold Plated Gay-Gay’ any more?

Does sex with a trans man remove my coveted 'gay' rating, and if so, am I not certified 'Gold' any more? And since everyone is getting married, should we?    READ MORE »

When you grow up but your friends are stuck in a queer culture loop

When you grow up but your friends are stuck in a queer culture loop

"I’m not sure when I graduated from innuendo t-shirts, gold booty shorts and Mickey Mouse ears when not at Disney World, but I did."    READ MORE »

My ex drained me dry, and now he’s everywhere I go

My ex drained me dry, and now he’s everywhere I go

'My friends are the only thing I have after all the trauma I’ve been through, so I can’t drop them despite his proximity to them when I go out. Avoiding him is impossible. I'm so triggered.'    READ MORE »

Vanity Philanthropy: When contributions are all about you

Vanity Philanthropy: When contributions are all about you

Doing good is not nearly as sweet if donations and fundraisers are all about the organizers rather than the beneficiaries they're out to help.    READ MORE »

When your dating and hookups feel like a long line of really bad choices

When your dating and hookups feel like a long line of really bad choices

People have sex for all kinds of reasons, and you could get something out of bad encounters that excites your subconscious even as it sabotages your conscious well-being.    READ MORE »

Red flags, bad dates and help for perpetually poor choices

Red flags, bad dates and help for perpetually poor choices

All seemed well until the guy started withdrawing a bit, saying he was sure he had gotten herpes and could “feel the disease in his body.” It was seriously kinda crazy.    READ MORE »

Insta couples, fisting and minding my own business

Insta couples, fisting and minding my own business

The guy is lying to his boyfriend and followers, maybe even himself. Do you think he’s suddenly being honest with a stranger on the internet?    READ MORE »

Queers who offer an explanation when they owe an apology

Queers who offer an explanation when they owe an apology

It's hard to say you're sorry, but if your version of apologizing doesn't include the actual words, save it. Now serving proper form for apologies and forgiveness in The Q advice column.    READ MORE »

The first clue was when his cheating husband told him to ‘man up’

The first clue was when his cheating husband told him to ‘man up’

Ever worry you're being basic, stupid or just blind? It's a common challenge, but not necessarily because of the reasons we think.    READ MORE »

Even the best unsolicited advice is still best kept to yourself

Even the best unsolicited advice is still best kept to yourself

One friend never fails to try and fix other people's problems. Another closest friend is believed to be either bipolar or on the spectrum. Here's to well meaning friends who think they're "helping."    READ MORE »

Tricks to move on from relationships and break from your past

Tricks to move on from relationships and break from your past

Your mental toolbox can always use a few new tools. This week, one queer thinks they'll never love again, while another is sure he'll never live down the mistakes of his former self.    READ MORE »

Queer forks in the road: Big decisions, past regrets and bad deeds

Queer forks in the road: Big decisions, past regrets and bad deeds

The trouble with trying to live down your past isn't just that it's over. It's that you can't get over it. The only thing you can change now is your mind, and we have some Q advice that might help.    READ MORE »

Queers who can’t find love, and why they may not actually want to

Queers who can’t find love, and why they may not actually want to

Living single isn't just a show from the '90s, nor is it necessarily a condition that needs a cure. Here's some advice for LGBTQ lovelorn who may need to rethink the couples construct.    READ MORE »

Queers who dream big, work hard, and fall short of arbitrary deadlines

Queers who dream big, work hard, and fall short of arbitrary deadlines

"I’m rapidly approaching the age of no gay return, 40. Apparently, while I was busy having fun and dreaming of becoming famous and fabulous, younger people are experiencing the success that eludes me."    READ MORE »

Is the queer Left ‘shoulding’ each other into oblivion?

Is the queer Left ‘shoulding’ each other into oblivion?

Liberal guilt is a double-edged sword in the wrong hands. A mind toward equality and away from privilege is one thing. A misguided need to prove our woke-ness is entirely different.    READ MORE »

Queer love ends in ‘their debt, my money and our divorce’

Queer love ends in ‘their debt, my money and our divorce’

LGBTQ divorce rights and other people's salaries are strangling more than your wallet. While both are valid challenges, remedies you can pursue and those you desire say a lot about your character.    READ MORE »

Paranoia, fear and loathing at your queer therapist’s office

Paranoia, fear and loathing at your queer therapist’s office

Whether your ex hooked up with your therapist or your new friends actually hate you, you're asking the wrong questions. Here's the heart of what should really worry you.    READ MORE »

How to overcome busybody queers who stir the pot

How to overcome busybody queers who stir the pot

Vaguebooking for attention, inserting yourself into other people’s situations and talking behind people's backs are not good looks. Meet two attention-seeking queers you definitely don't want to be.    READ MORE »

Closeted at 60 and other queer struggles with authentic self

Closeted at 60 and other queer struggles with authentic self

When to stop being yourself because online isn't the place for all your business, and when to embrace it with your whole heart because life is too short to live anyone's life but your own.    READ MORE »

How allies can really show their LGBTQ solidarity

How allies can really show their LGBTQ solidarity

If it's not one thing, it's another. If you aren't allied and loving your queers your way, you're a queer hating your body knowing when size really, really matters. Confused? Let our advice column The Q help.    READ MORE »

 
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