Category:  The Q

Queers who dream big, work hard, and fall short of arbitrary deadlines

Queers who dream big, work hard, and fall short of arbitrary deadlines

"I’m rapidly approaching the age of no gay return, 40. Apparently, while I was busy having fun and dreaming of becoming famous and fabulous, younger people are experiencing the success that eludes me."    READ MORE »

Is the queer Left ‘shoulding’ each other into oblivion?

Is the queer Left ‘shoulding’ each other into oblivion?

Liberal guilt is a double-edged sword in the wrong hands. A mind toward equality and away from privilege is one thing. A misguided need to prove our woke-ness is entirely different.    READ MORE »

Queer love ends in ‘their debt, my money and our divorce’

Queer love ends in ‘their debt, my money and our divorce’

LGBTQ divorce rights and other people's salaries are strangling more than your wallet. While both are valid challenges, remedies you can pursue and those you desire say a lot about your character.    READ MORE »

Paranoia, fear and loathing at your queer therapist’s office

Paranoia, fear and loathing at your queer therapist’s office

Whether your ex hooked up with your therapist or your new friends actually hate you, you're asking the wrong questions. Here's the heart of what should really worry you.    READ MORE »

How to overcome busybody queers who stir the pot

How to overcome busybody queers who stir the pot

Vaguebooking for attention, inserting yourself into other people’s situations and talking behind people's backs are not good looks. Meet two attention-seeking queers you definitely don't want to be.    READ MORE »

Closeted at 60 and other queer struggles with authentic self

Closeted at 60 and other queer struggles with authentic self

When to stop being yourself because online isn't the place for all your business, and when to embrace it with your whole heart because life is too short to live anyone's life but your own.    READ MORE »

How allies can really show their LGBTQ solidarity

How allies can really show their LGBTQ solidarity

If it's not one thing, it's another. If you aren't allied and loving your queers your way, you're a queer hating your body knowing when size really, really matters. Confused? Let our advice column The Q help.    READ MORE »

Awkward talks, letting go, truth-telling and other queer conundrums

Awkward talks, letting go, truth-telling and other queer conundrums

To tell the truth is sometimes the hardest part of any challenge. Whether that's to the one you love, to yourself, or to potential partners. This week's advice column is here for all of it.    READ MORE »

Bored in bed? Stop whining and let your fantasies fuel the fire

Bored in bed? Stop whining and let your fantasies fuel the fire

"We’re in a sexual rut. I sample the sausage, he delivers it to the service entrance, we cook it, then we burp and roll over. The sameness of the sex is boring me to tears."    READ MORE »

If you think that queer is flirting with you, step up to the plate

If you think that queer is flirting with you, step up to the plate

That feel when "I'm old enough to be his dad, but I kinda want to be his daddy" runs headlong into "I think this older guy is hot, but I’m not sure how to get his attention."    READ MORE »

Touch myself: Pleasuring our way past pesky sexual hang-ups

Touch myself: Pleasuring our way past pesky sexual hang-ups

"I love sex. Show me a person, and right or wrong, I decide within milliseconds what they look like naked, whether or not I’d do them, and how it would be if I did."    READ MORE »

How categorizing queers leaves little room to fall for actual humans

How categorizing queers leaves little room to fall for actual humans

Labels are often used to identify, differentiate and separate people, often with serving to disconnect us from each other and from meaningful relationships. Where's the love?    READ MORE »

Harsh truths of queer relationships and sex can be hard to hear

Harsh truths of queer relationships and sex can be hard to hear

Short and… sweet? Just the because the answer is simple, don't mean the solution is as easy to execute. Quick answers to boo trouble that's easier said than done.    READ MORE »

Overcoming the unreasonable fears that hold queers back

Overcoming the unreasonable fears that hold queers back

The thrill of the chase often gets old as you do, and freezing your desires for the sake of others does too. Time to overcome preconceptions so you can move forward.    READ MORE »

Marriage isn’t smooth sailing. Are you Gutted, Lazy or Stigma-rant?

Marriage isn’t smooth sailing. Are you Gutted, Lazy or Stigma-rant?

In marriage matters, committing to one another is the first step, but far from the last. Issues arise no matter the stage of your relationship, and a little good advice can go a long way.    READ MORE »

Help for queers who are green, fugly and worry too much

Help for queers who are green, fugly and worry too much

Got a significant other so hot you're a jealous mess? Aging and letting yourself feel like a troll? Step 1 is to stop worrying, because wringing your hands compounds your issues.    READ MORE »

Queer life improves, but hooking up is still oh-so hard to do

Queer life improves, but hooking up is still oh-so hard to do

Some queer conundrums never get easier, whether you're big-kid fishing in a millennial pond, wanting commitment, or worried about HIV in the wrong way. Was it always this hard? Yes.    READ MORE »

From exes to friends: the obstacle course of an amicable breakup

From exes to friends: the obstacle course of an amicable breakup

Even if you still love and respect each other, jumping hurdles is still part of any breakup. The Q meets two queer couples who are navigating their paths to a new normal.    READ MORE »

Help! My hus-bear is a control freak and I want out!

Help! My hus-bear is a control freak and I want out!

Whether it’s a passive-aggressively abusive partner or a "mean-girl" friend who's just a bully, you deserve better. Here are some steps for freeing yourself from toxic relationships.    READ MORE »

Welcome to Atlanta Pride, unwoke and newbies!

Welcome to Atlanta Pride, unwoke and newbies!

Letter writers into The Q, we're calling them Newbie and Unwoke, both find long-overdue teaching moments in equality and the joys of being out and proud on Pride Weekend.    READ MORE »

 
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