Category:  The Q

Red flags, bad dates and help for perpetually poor choices

Red flags, bad dates and help for perpetually poor choices

All seemed well until the guy started withdrawing a bit, saying he was sure he had gotten herpes and could “feel the disease in his body.” It was seriously kinda crazy.    READ MORE »

Insta couples, fisting and minding my own business

Insta couples, fisting and minding my own business

The guy is lying to his boyfriend and followers, maybe even himself. Do you think he’s suddenly being honest with a stranger on the internet?    READ MORE »

Queers who offer an explanation when they owe an apology

Queers who offer an explanation when they owe an apology

It's hard to say you're sorry, but if your version of apologizing doesn't include the actual words, save it. Now serving proper form for apologies and forgiveness in The Q advice column.    READ MORE »

The first clue was when his cheating husband told him to ‘man up’

The first clue was when his cheating husband told him to ‘man up’

Ever worry you're being basic, stupid or just blind? It's a common challenge, but not necessarily because of the reasons we think.    READ MORE »

Even the best unsolicited advice is still best kept to yourself

Even the best unsolicited advice is still best kept to yourself

One friend never fails to try and fix other people's problems. Another closest friend is believed to be either bipolar or on the spectrum. Here's to well meaning friends who think they're "helping."    READ MORE »

Tricks to move on from relationships and break from your past

Tricks to move on from relationships and break from your past

Your mental toolbox can always use a few new tools. This week, one queer thinks they'll never love again, while another is sure he'll never live down the mistakes of his former self.    READ MORE »

Queer forks in the road: Big decisions, past regrets and bad deeds

Queer forks in the road: Big decisions, past regrets and bad deeds

The trouble with trying to live down your past isn't just that it's over. It's that you can't get over it. The only thing you can change now is your mind, and we have some Q advice that might help.    READ MORE »

Queers who can’t find love, and why they may not actually want to

Queers who can’t find love, and why they may not actually want to

Living single isn't just a show from the '90s, nor is it necessarily a condition that needs a cure. Here's some advice for LGBTQ lovelorn who may need to rethink the couples construct.    READ MORE »

Queers who dream big, work hard, and fall short of arbitrary deadlines

Queers who dream big, work hard, and fall short of arbitrary deadlines

"I’m rapidly approaching the age of no gay return, 40. Apparently, while I was busy having fun and dreaming of becoming famous and fabulous, younger people are experiencing the success that eludes me."    READ MORE »

Is the queer Left ‘shoulding’ each other into oblivion?

Is the queer Left ‘shoulding’ each other into oblivion?

Liberal guilt is a double-edged sword in the wrong hands. A mind toward equality and away from privilege is one thing. A misguided need to prove our woke-ness is entirely different.    READ MORE »

Queer love ends in ‘their debt, my money and our divorce’

Queer love ends in ‘their debt, my money and our divorce’

LGBTQ divorce rights and other people's salaries are strangling more than your wallet. While both are valid challenges, remedies you can pursue and those you desire say a lot about your character.    READ MORE »

Paranoia, fear and loathing at your queer therapist’s office

Paranoia, fear and loathing at your queer therapist’s office

Whether your ex hooked up with your therapist or your new friends actually hate you, you're asking the wrong questions. Here's the heart of what should really worry you.    READ MORE »

How to overcome busybody queers who stir the pot

How to overcome busybody queers who stir the pot

Vaguebooking for attention, inserting yourself into other people’s situations and talking behind people's backs are not good looks. Meet two attention-seeking queers you definitely don't want to be.    READ MORE »

Closeted at 60 and other queer struggles with authentic self

Closeted at 60 and other queer struggles with authentic self

When to stop being yourself because online isn't the place for all your business, and when to embrace it with your whole heart because life is too short to live anyone's life but your own.    READ MORE »

How allies can really show their LGBTQ solidarity

How allies can really show their LGBTQ solidarity

If it's not one thing, it's another. If you aren't allied and loving your queers your way, you're a queer hating your body knowing when size really, really matters. Confused? Let our advice column The Q help.    READ MORE »

Awkward talks, letting go, truth-telling and other queer conundrums

Awkward talks, letting go, truth-telling and other queer conundrums

To tell the truth is sometimes the hardest part of any challenge. Whether that's to the one you love, to yourself, or to potential partners. This week's advice column is here for all of it.    READ MORE »

Bored in bed? Stop whining and let your fantasies fuel the fire

Bored in bed? Stop whining and let your fantasies fuel the fire

"We’re in a sexual rut. I sample the sausage, he delivers it to the service entrance, we cook it, then we burp and roll over. The sameness of the sex is boring me to tears."    READ MORE »

If you think that queer is flirting with you, step up to the plate

If you think that queer is flirting with you, step up to the plate

That feel when "I'm old enough to be his dad, but I kinda want to be his daddy" runs headlong into "I think this older guy is hot, but I’m not sure how to get his attention."    READ MORE »

Touch myself: Pleasuring our way past pesky sexual hang-ups

Touch myself: Pleasuring our way past pesky sexual hang-ups

"I love sex. Show me a person, and right or wrong, I decide within milliseconds what they look like naked, whether or not I’d do them, and how it would be if I did."    READ MORE »

Harsh truths of queer relationships and sex can be hard to hear

Harsh truths of queer relationships and sex can be hard to hear

Short and… sweet? Just the because the answer is simple, don't mean the solution is as easy to execute. Quick answers to boo trouble that's easier said than done.    READ MORE »

 
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