10 ways to make your queer love last

Finding and hanging onto a boo (or two) isn't a one-and-done proposition. It takes effort from all parties to keep it.

Here are some things you can do every day to make sure your love is secure and growing. They may seem obvious or simple, but too many couples and throuples forget them.







Put down the phone

Talk. Ask questions and listen.


Respect Each Other's Independence


Love Their Pets


Cook & Eat Together


We spend most of our downtime eating. Cliché or not, our stomachs really are on the road to our hearts.


Strategic Use of Teeth

Yes, really.


Make Them Laugh

And make sure their jokes make you laugh as well. Looks fade; a sense of humor is forever.


Get Along with Their Friends


Dote on Them

Show how much they mean to you, take an interest in their stuff, and never take their presence for granted.


Take Care of Yourself

Not just for them, but if you feel healthy and sexy about yourself, so will they.



Lots of it. Lather, rinse and repeat.

This article originally appeared in Q magazine. Read the full issue below, and pick up your hard copy around town.