10 best things about coming out as trans or nonbinary

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Transgender and nonbinary folks share their thoughts on the best things about coming out, overcoming the fear of the unknown, and setting themselves free to be.

We asked followers on our Instagram feed what their pleasant surprises and most positive reliefs, realizations and revelations were after they came out as trans or nonbinary, and these are their 10 best responses.

 

Your Own Standards

“At some level you stop caring what greater society thinks, and it’s such a freeing feeling.”

— Lynn

 

Words Matter

“After a lifetime of questioning, finally gaining the words to articulate who and what I am without hesitation or self-loathing.”

— Colin

 

Fresh Air

“I feel like a person who always had one lung and got a second one and felt what it was like to breathe for the first time.”

— Michelle

 

Belonging

“Once out, other people appear who are out too, and you find community, and you realize that you never felt you belonged anywhere until now. You’re not alone.”

— Terry

 

Peace

“The best part about finally being able to live authentically is the sense of inner peace, and the fact that my relationships with people feel more genuine.”

— Jamie Elizabeth

 

Superpowers

“I like to view being transgender as a superpower, and I can wield it like any other individual characteristic like being smart or bubbly or thoughtful.”

— Heather

 

You Be You

“It was much the same way of accepting myself as queer: I no longer had to spend so much time and energy working on being someone who I wasn’t and would never be.”

— Jared

 

Pride

“I spent so much time worrying. Now every day I try to make my younger, closeted self proud, and it’s the most satisfying, actualized thing in the world to tell him he did it, he made it.”

— Conner

 

Positivity

“Some of the “woker” precincts of social media try to push the idea that gender should be dismantled, canceled, transcended, and that it’s ethically incumbent on you as a queer person to make it happen. Ignore this. It’s dumb. It’s OK to want gender, to identify along the spectrum or outside the spectrum of the construct.”

— Andrea

 

Reclaiming Power

“The moment you come out, nobody can harm you with your identity. They can’t hurt you by telling you what you just told them. Being trans isn’t a bad thing anymore.”

— Clee

This feature appeared in Q ATLus magazine. Read the latest issue online here:

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