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When you realize you’re in love with an addict

When you realize you’re in love with an addict

You're in love with two people in the same body. The sober one, and the substance abuser. And try as you might, you finally realize that you can’t love them out of addiction.    READ MORE »

When you’re more vertically challenged than the average bear

When you’re more vertically challenged than the average bear

'I’m a pocket queer. Almost everything I can do for myself, of course, and I get insulted when others assume I’m helpless.' What he can and can't do in this week's advice column.    READ MORE »

Coming out bi, trans, poz? When, why to share your queer truth

Coming out bi, trans, poz? When, why to share your queer truth

Full disclosure can be the right thing to do, but knowing the right timing and reasons to be upfront is trickier. Coming out gay, trans or poz in The Q advice column.    READ MORE »

When your partner is a control freak, it’s time to talk

When your partner is a control freak, it’s time to talk

If you find yourself always doing what they want with no reciprocation or compromise for what you want, ever, you're not their partner. You're their pet. Here are some suggestions.    READ MORE »

When it’s time to break up with your best friend

When it’s time to break up with your best friend

Cutting ties is never easy. Whether you've outgrown your bestie or can't figure out how to let a good person go, breaking up is oh-so hard to do. We have some queer advice.    READ MORE »

The best queer things to do in Atlanta this weekend

The best queer things to do in Atlanta this weekend

Stonewall Weekend brings more to love in the LGBTQ-ATL. Events line up for you to knock down Friday through Sunday, from weekend-long festivals and annual summits and nightly parties.    READ MORE »

Keeping up with nosy, picky, sneezy queers

Keeping up with nosy, picky, sneezy queers

You will never live up to your perception of the Seven Dwarves in the LGBTQ village, so stop comparing their social media highlight reels to your behind-the-scenes footage.    READ MORE »

That time you knew what you wanted but hated when you got it

That time you knew what you wanted but hated when you got it

Whether it's longterm love, short term disagreements or queer life passing you by in the closet, everyone encounters moments when what they thought was, well, thought wrong. The Q offers advice.    READ MORE »

‘The hookup was good, but I think I want more than that’

‘The hookup was good, but I think I want more than that’

The hookup was all good. Now you're all in, but are they? What happens when three Q readers who want more find out that their objects of affection might just be hittin' it and quittin' it?    READ MORE »

Oh the tangled web when we aim to have sex with coworkers

Oh the tangled web when we aim to have sex with coworkers

The thrill of office-party hookups, interoffice flirting and longterm secret affairs between coworkers is gone when the jig is up, or the participants realize they don't see eye to eye on what's happening.    READ MORE »

What white lies, broken promises and Grindr ghosting say about you

What white lies, broken promises and Grindr ghosting say about you

Whether it's white lies to your boo, being perpetually late, or ditching a hookup, being true to your word is hard for some people. Level up by doing what you say and saying what you mean.    READ MORE »

We’re here, we’re queer, we’re conquering our fears

We’re here, we’re queer, we’re conquering our fears

Don't feed the fears, queers, The Q offers advice this week on facing the unknown, from your secret fetish fantasies to relationship commitment issues to your mind-numbingly boring rut.    READ MORE »

How to break up like a grown queer instead of a jerk

How to break up like a grown queer instead of a jerk

Bailing on difficult conversations? Adulting is hard. If you're ghosting instead of confronting, sabotaging yourself to avoid discussion, or missing out over having a chat, it's time to buck up.    READ MORE »

How do I navigate my discordant relationship past our differences?

How do I navigate my discordant relationship past our differences?

Tapping divergence as fuel, but knowing when discordant relationships are a good challenge to have, and when your differences are actually dealbreakers worth considering.    READ MORE »

Help! My exes and conquests are haunting me and I can’t move on!

Help! My exes and conquests are haunting me and I can’t move on!

Falling out of love sucks, but if you're blaming your problematic ex or your multiple, emotionless, complicated conquests for the trouble, you're completely missing the 'you' of it all.    READ MORE »

Opposite sides of sexual two-faces and what to do about them

Opposite sides of sexual two-faces and what to do about them

If you're flipping the sexual coin and messing with people's emotions, the two sides of your desire reveal more about you than the objects of your affection you're blaming.    READ MORE »

When friends become crushes or friends with benefits

When friends become crushes or friends with benefits

One queer slept with their best friend. Another wants to but can't bring it up. Then there's a convoluted LGBTQ daisy chain of affection with none of the fun part. Let's talk.    READ MORE »

Advice for queer matchmakers and the terminally single

Advice for queer matchmakers and the terminally single

Why are my fellow queers intent on setting me up with crazies and freaks – sorry, but these people are actually crazy and weird, they just are – who would never make a match for me.    READ MORE »

A queer guide to sex etiquette before, during  & after

A queer guide to sex etiquette before, during & after

How do you spice things up? What line wouldn't you cross? How to acknowledge one night stands? Three reader inquiries on how to respect partners.    READ MORE »

Flirting, cheating, Grindr, cybersex, and lies of omission

Flirting, cheating, Grindr, cybersex, and lies of omission

Who you sleep with is your business, but who you keep it from matters. Lies of omission about who you’re doing, or who you’re flirting with can show the one being fooled is you.    READ MORE »

 
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