Category:  The Q

Keeping up with nosy, picky, sneezy queers

Keeping up with nosy, picky, sneezy queers

You will never live up to your perception of the Seven Dwarves in the LGBTQ village, so stop comparing their social media highlight reels to your behind-the-scenes footage.    READ MORE »

That time you knew what you wanted but hated when you got it

That time you knew what you wanted but hated when you got it

Whether it's longterm love, short term disagreements or queer life passing you by in the closet, everyone encounters moments when what they thought was, well, thought wrong. The Q offers advice.    READ MORE »

‘The hookup was good, but I think I want more than that’

‘The hookup was good, but I think I want more than that’

The hookup was all good. Now you're all in, but are they? What happens when three Q readers who want more find out that their objects of affection might just be hittin' it and quittin' it?    READ MORE »

Oh the tangled web when we aim to have sex with coworkers

Oh the tangled web when we aim to have sex with coworkers

The thrill of office-party hookups, interoffice flirting and longterm secret affairs between coworkers is gone when the jig is up, or the participants realize they don't see eye to eye on what's happening.    READ MORE »

What white lies, broken promises and Grindr ghosting say about you

What white lies, broken promises and Grindr ghosting say about you

Whether it's white lies to your boo, being perpetually late, or ditching a hookup, being true to your word is hard for some people. Level up by doing what you say and saying what you mean.    READ MORE »

We’re here, we’re queer, we’re conquering our fears

We’re here, we’re queer, we’re conquering our fears

Don't feed the fears, queers, The Q offers advice this week on facing the unknown, from your secret fetish fantasies to relationship commitment issues to your mind-numbingly boring rut.    READ MORE »

How to break up like a grown queer instead of a jerk

How to break up like a grown queer instead of a jerk

Bailing on difficult conversations? Adulting is hard. If you're ghosting instead of confronting, sabotaging yourself to avoid discussion, or missing out over having a chat, it's time to buck up.    READ MORE »

How do I navigate my discordant relationship past our differences?

How do I navigate my discordant relationship past our differences?

Tapping divergence as fuel, but knowing when discordant relationships are a good challenge to have, and when your differences are actually dealbreakers worth considering.    READ MORE »

Help! My exes and conquests are haunting me and I can’t move on!

Help! My exes and conquests are haunting me and I can’t move on!

Falling out of love sucks, but if you're blaming your problematic ex or your multiple, emotionless, complicated conquests for the trouble, you're completely missing the 'you' of it all.    READ MORE »

Opposite sides of sexual two-faces and what to do about them

Opposite sides of sexual two-faces and what to do about them

If you're flipping the sexual coin and messing with people's emotions, the two sides of your desire reveal more about you than the objects of your affection you're blaming.    READ MORE »

When friends become crushes or friends with benefits

When friends become crushes or friends with benefits

One queer slept with their best friend. Another wants to but can't bring it up. Then there's a convoluted LGBTQ daisy chain of affection with none of the fun part. Let's talk.    READ MORE »

Advice for queer matchmakers and the terminally single

Advice for queer matchmakers and the terminally single

Why are my fellow queers intent on setting me up with crazies and freaks – sorry, but these people are actually crazy and weird, they just are – who would never make a match for me.    READ MORE »

A queer guide to sex etiquette before, during  & after

A queer guide to sex etiquette before, during & after

How do you spice things up? What line wouldn't you cross? How to acknowledge one night stands? Three reader inquiries on how to respect partners.    READ MORE »

Flirting, cheating, Grindr, cybersex, and lies of omission

Flirting, cheating, Grindr, cybersex, and lies of omission

Who you sleep with is your business, but who you keep it from matters. Lies of omission about who you’re doing, or who you’re flirting with can show the one being fooled is you.    READ MORE »

Three coming out stories, three shows of strength

Three coming out stories, three shows of strength

At 15 or 55, and whether everyone knows, no one know, or just your Mammaw is clueless to your secrets, it isn't easy to set yourself free. The Q has advice for three versions of strength.    READ MORE »

The Q: Three queer breakups, broken hearts, and moving on

The Q: Three queer breakups, broken hearts, and moving on

Breaking up is hard to do, and every split feels like the worst one, ever. A look at what you can do, and what you should avoid, as The Q tries to apply some solutions as salve.    READ MORE »

Whitney knew: Why loving yourself is the greatest queer love of all

Whitney knew: Why loving yourself is the greatest queer love of all

Fit to fat? Bad romance? D-I-V-O-R-C-E? Ask the Q why self respect and integrity are the keys to common problems queers often face without a solid foundation to make the right call.    READ MORE »

The Q: Jumping to conclusions that it’s all about you

The Q: Jumping to conclusions that it’s all about you

Whether you’re furious that your date had to cancel, your significant other is taking you for granted, or you’re just plain new to love, maybe it - gasp! - has nothing to do with you.    READ MORE »

Hot romance. True love. Should I stay or should I go?

Hot romance. True love. Should I stay or should I go?

Should you trade marriage for the passion of your once-a-year dalliance? A sure thing for a dream fulfilled? Are you in a rut or afraid to move forward? In both cases, Life Judge knows.
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The Q: What if I’m not Kinsey 6 ‘Gold Plated Gay-Gay’ any more?

The Q: What if I’m not Kinsey 6 ‘Gold Plated Gay-Gay’ any more?

Does sex with a transman remove my coveted 'gay' rating, and if so, am I not certified 'Gold' any more? And since everyone is getting married, should we? Life Judge knows.    READ MORE »

 
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