Your spark can turn wood into a spectacle

imageContributing blogger Mike Alvear is an Atlanta-based columnist, author and TV personality who rants on sex, dating and pop culture while living at the corner of urge and merge. Find more from him at his blog.

This question came from a letter to my "Need Wood" column:

You have to help me. You are my last resort. I am 25, and have the sex drive of an 18-year-old. My boyfriend of almost seven years is 32, and has the sex drive of a 60-year-old. It seems like the only time we have sex is when he is in the mood, or when I am almost “forcing” him to.

I can usually get him into the mood by doing different things to seduce him, but he is never the one to initiate sex. We have tried several different things, with no improvement. What can we do to get his sex drive up to where it should be?

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Atlanta Dream seeking new Shooting Stars

imageThe Atlanta Dream, slowly gearing up for the start of its second season in June, wants some new Shooting Stars.

Yes, the WNBA team, a favorite among local lesbian sports fans, wants a diverse group of men and women for its cheer team, which performs at its 18 home games and promotional events.

Tryouts are set for March 15-17 and previous dance or cheerleading experience is a must. So bring your best spirit fingers, fitted t-shirt (men), tank top (women) and shorts or dance trunks and be ready to impress. Work it!    READ MORE »

Cobb woman guilty in girlfriend’s slaying

A Cobb County woman faces life in prison for murdering her girlfriend after an argument.

On Monday, the jury convicted Natasha Demery on charges of felony murder, two counts of aggravated assault and possession of a firearm during the commission of a crime. She was sentenced to life plus five years and will be eligible for parole in 30 years.

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The G-factor in working overtime, all the time

Contributing blogger John Long is a career coach in Atlanta who founded Two Roads Resources. He answers: "I cut my hours only to find them back up again. How do I find a work-life balance?"    READ MORE »

Cheap date, Log Cabin, Hip-hop, Idol

image Surprised? "American Idol's" Adam Lambart's gay photos.
Dating on a budget: The cheapest date ever -- you.
Hip-hop's homophobic haters, including Trick Trick (photo).
Finally a good bank: Bank ad teaches transgender inclusion.
House minority whip Cantor says GOP should be more inclusive on gay issues.
Big, muscular highlights from the NFL Combine.
I love foreskins and body hair.
Head of Log Cabin Republicans speaks out on speculation that Democrat is leading the group behind closed doors.
Why it should be perfectly legal to call someone a fag.
Spanish soccer's first gay group.    READ MORE »

Leagues hold Spring Training this weekend

imageSpring Training for two of Atlanta's gay sports leagues is set for this weekend. And thankfully, it all unfolds in Piedmont Park.

On Saturday, the National Flag Football League of Atlanta kicks off its season with a meet and greet for players and prospective recruits. The league has 74 players heading into its season, which opens play with preseason games on March 28, and hopes to reach at least 96. So join the league from 10 a.m. to noon at the athletic fields in the Oval.

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Seeking your ‘Snowstorm in Atlanta’ photos

Snow came to metro Atlanta on Sunday, blanketing the region with the fluffy white stuff to ring in March.

And we're looking for your photos of the day to share on Project Q Atlanta. Snap a picture of the gay snowperson you built in the yard? A snowball battle in the park? Take a walk through the white stuff with your special someone or your dog?

.(JavaScript must be enabled to view this email address) your best gay photo of the day -- ones with gay sensibility work, too -- to us with a short description. We may publish your submission on the site.    READ MORE »

AJC offers details on warm, gay travel spots

imageThe Atlanta Journal-Constitution's web site got a little gay today.

The daily newspaper, long a gay-friendly destination, offered up some gay travel and Pride news on its home page today, teasing it just below its coverage of the winter weather slamming the region. On a cold and snowy day like this, it provides nice thoughts of warm locales including Miami and New Orleans.

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ATL’s hospitals offer few written protections

It's disturbing to discover that the metro Atlanta hospitals you might expect to include sexual orientation and gender identity in their Patients' Bill of Rights actually don't.

That's according to a survey by Southern Voice of Grady Health System, Northside Hospital, DeKalb Medical Center and Emory Healthcare.

Quick translation: Their written visitation policies don't allow LGBT domestic partners the same access as spouses and next of kin, they don't allow same-sex parents the same access as opposite-sex parents for visitation of their minor children and their staff doesn't receive diversity training addressing gay issues.

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Bucks hit pitch today against High Country

imageThe Atlanta Bucks Rugby Football Club (1-2) is looking to snap a two-match losing streak when it faces High Country today.

The teams square off at Coan Middle School in Kirkwood at 4 p.m.

The Bucks opened their eight-game spring season with a 12-0 win against Georgia Tech on Jan. 24. On Feb. 14, they dropped a match to the Birmingham Vulcans 83-0.

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Transgender vets find VA tough to crack

imageContributing blogger Monica Helms has been an activist for the transgender community since 1998 and has lived in Atlanta since 2000. She is a co-founder and president of the Transgender American Veterans Association and blogs at Trans Universe.

For the first time in the history of the Transgender American Veterans Association, a mainstream print media outlet presented the stories of transgender veterans and the problems they face.

Journalist Carol Ann Alaimo conducted more than three weeks of interviews, research and education to create a two-part, 3,500-word article on our veterans.

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Fat trainer, Jews rock, Stonewall 2.0, L Word

image The incredibly fit trainer, Paul James (photo), who opted to get fat.
Republicans are Steele Stumbling on the way to equality.
What is your favorite "L Word" parenting storyline?
While we slumber, the Right attacks.
Sports reporter stands by gay Aiken rumor.
Report from Charlotte: Where Stonewall 2.0 hasn't fizzled.
Hot (and bulging) model Nate Gill featured in "Out."
Gay marriage will lead to a nation of violent criminals.
Presidential Gold: How well does the Obama dildo perform?
The Indie Rock Fag tests the limits of his loyalty.    READ MORE »

Friday: Bears and their skin


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You want abs? Genetics plays a role

image Contributing blogger Troy Meyers is a certified personal trainer and sports conditioner with more than 10 years of experience training clients and designing fitness programs. He owns Atlanta-based and contributes to the site’s Lockerroom Blog.

If you care about your looks, you probably focus a lot of attention on the abdominal muscles during your workouts. Like most folks, you work on the assumption (or hope) that everyone can develop a ripped and ridged midsection.

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The perils of online dating: Not the Escort!

You know "The Blotter" from Creative Loafing is our virtual candy. We want to put it down, break the habit and improve our lives. But we just can't resist the temptation. After all, in tough times like these, it's comforting to know that stupid people have it that much worse.

Take this one about the perils of internet hookups:

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Thursday: Three gay things to do today

FAMILY PROTECTIONS: Join the MEGA Family Project and the Interweave Group at the Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Atlanta for "Legal Protections and Marriage Equality," a discussion about how gay families can legally protest themselves. The session begins at at 7 p.m.

COCKTAIL SIP: The Thursday Night Cocktail Sip in Gay Atlanta continues its early start to the weekend at Trois in Midtown. The event begins at 9 p.m.

BLACK OUT: European DJ Konrad Black will spend one of just a handful of U.S. dates in Atlanta tonight at gay-friendly Bazzaar Urban Bar. The music starts at 9 p.m. For more on Black, read a recent Southern Voice piece on his Atlanta stop.

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Defense: Abuse led to girlfriend’s death

A murder trial stemming from a deadly argument in 2006 opened in a Cobb County court on Wednesday as attorneys and prosecutors squared off in their opening arguments.

At issues is whether Natasha Demery shot and killed her girlfriend, Alisha Florine Lea, in anger in an early-morning argument or if she reacted to months of physical and emotional abuse.

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Pedro Zamora: From MTV to the Big Screen

imageContributing blogger Darian Aaron is an Alabama native who now calls Atlanta home. He’s the creator of Living Out Loud with Darian, a blog that offers his take on social, political and religious issues that impact the LGBT community.

The year was 1994 and MTV's "The Real World" was about to introduce us to a man that would become the face of one of the most devastating diseases mankind has ever had to endure, his name was Pedro Zamora. One of seven roommates chosen to have their lives videotaped over a six month period in San Francisco, this Cuban-American and openly gay HIV-positive man used the power of television to educate and inspire.

On a weekly basis Zamora allowed the American public to see first-hand what life was like as an openly gay man and a man living with AIDS. He shattered widely held stereotypes about the lives of gay men and those infected with the virus.

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Former Hoedown’s owner gets prison term

imageBen Elliott's life got a little more simple today.

The former owner of Hoedown's, who pleaded guilty to charges that he tried to swindle auto dealerships out of $30 million, was sentenced today to nine years in federal prison, five years probation and ordered to pay more than $4 million in restitution to several banks.

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Social Tuesdays finds a favorite with tavern

Social Tuesdays returned to Marlow's Tavern on Feb. 24 with a sizable crowd. It marked the second stop there for the weekly round up of cocktails and cuties. Let our photo album whet your appetite.    READ MORE »